Wednesday, October 19, 2011

I love being my kid's mom

They are awesome. They are funny, sweet, cuddley (with me at least), smart and so cute I could gobble them up! I love their squishy cheeks, both pairs ;) , their little piggy toes (even when they stink - actually it's kinda crazy cute that they stink sometimes - like they played so hard their feet sweated so much they are now stinky and their just little people feet. I know, I'm nuts.) I actually like it when they climb or walk all over me (kinda like a massage) even when they are laying on my head. Which that's bad because then they think they can do it to anyone.  I secretly feel awesome when they get hurt because I know they'll come running to me and only my kisses can make them feel better- of course I only feel awesome when it's not a big owie, I'm not that nuts. They think I'm the cat's pajamas. And I think they're the bee's knees. I love their little voices and funny way of saying things "peanut chubby samich" "apple tree" for apples - both those are Casey's.
Today I commented to Jeff on how I thought Ben was growing because he was so hungry today and his jammies were looking kinda short. Bennett said "Yeah because I want to know everything. I don't want to be a boy, I want to be big." Then he paused and said "But I'll still be yours." I died. There cannot be cuter kid out there.
The other day I over heard Jeff talking to Bennett, he asked why Benny asks so many questions. (Seriously Ben asks why after every explanation).  He said "because I want to know every thing."
And one day I heard him say to Jeff "When I see something delicious, I eat it."
His vocabulary surprises me daily. I need to write this stuff down so I'll remember it. If you ask him what he's saving his money for in his piggy bank it's to buy a sister. He calls her Sally.
Today he was jumping on the couch and Casel was sitting backwards on it and Bennett accidentally bounced him off and he smacked his head on the hardwood floor (which was like the 6th time he bonked his head today - the kid is fearless and klutzy, not a good mix) and Bennett looked at him and said "See Casey, that's why you don't jump on the couch." He did say sorry unprompted and give him a kiss. I love Bennett's sensitivity. He really wants to be a good boy. He was terrorizing Lucy one day and I told him he hurt her and that she's not like us, she can't tell us when we hurt her and that will make her afraid of him. He felt really bad, you could see the expression change on his face and he said "I want to give Lucy a hug" so he hugged her and said sorry.
We were visiting my mom's and made a craft of foam egg people. There were boy eggs and girl eggs (Easter craft my mom couldn't wait for Easter) and Bennett was playing with them and said "This one is in love with that one, she's his girlfriend and it makes him cry". And we asked why it makes him cry and he said "because he loves her so much." !!!! I didn't know my son knew anything about girlfriends and love. I figured it was because there's this book I read to him called Love You Forever about a mom who goes into her son's room as he grows and holds him after he falls asleep and rocks him and tells him how much she loves him and then he does that to her when she's old and dying and then he starts doing that to his daughter and I cry every time I read it to him and when he asks why I'm crying I tell him because I love him so much. (I never pick that book out to read, I only read it if he asks me to, seriously cry every time. )

Casey McBean is growing fast. Talking all the time. Here's some Casey translations for you:
"Queaze" - please
"Apple Tree"- apple
"peanut butter chubby samich"- pb&j sandwich
Woosy- Lucy
Thwoosty- thirsty (sounds a lot like Lucy)
Woosy bite you- Lucy bit me (it's because I tell him "Lucy will bite you..." when he plays too rough) and she never bites hard just playing
Muddah- he wants to read "Are you my Mother?"
What the HECK!- in my defense he may have gotten it from Toy Story 3, but probably not.
That's all my brain can think of right now. I find it interesting he calls me Mommy and Bennett calls me Mama.  I don't remember a time when Bennett called me Mommy. Once I commented to him something like "Ben you should say 'Gee Mom, thanks for...." trying to get him to be polite and he said no he didn't want to say that. I thought he was just being a stinker but he said he didn't want to say "mom" he wanted to say "mama".
I love this time in my life right now. I love my little family so much it hurts my heart because this time will go by fast and then one day a stinky teenage boy will come home from school, probably fight with his brother and ask to borrow the keys to the car so he can take his girlfriend on a date. I hope my boys always stay my pals.
 They are truly awesome. I am in awe of them, these little beings. I get to be their mommy. I am so blessed.

My current obsession

Raising Cain, The Emotional Lives of Boys. Read it, just do it. It's only 258 pages long and it will change how you view and interact with boys. If you have a boy in your life, whether you're a parent, teacher, mentor or friend, you need to read this.
"...But as their manuscript progressed, Kindlon and Thompson realized a simple "how-to" would not do. "In the end," they write, "we found that the best advice we had to offer was simply to understand boys as they truly are ­ rather than as they appear or as we wish them to be. Our deepest wish is to pull aside the curtain boys so tenaciously draw around themselves and offer you a look inside their hearts and minds. If we succeed, we hope that you will see more clearly the ways in which our culture conspires to limit and undermine their emotional lives. We hope you will understand boys better, and above all, we hope you will enjoy them more"
Read an interview with one of the authors, Dan Kindlon, PH.D. here.